Tulle cloaked bride

A gauzy veil silhouettes a softened landscape,

Leaving a world of vague shapes

To linger like enigmatic shadows.

Conifers spire toward the heavens;

Leafy renaissance towers

Shrouded in a lost world above.

Tiny birds bolt from a nearby cedar;

Feathered darts

Shooting through a tranquil haze.

I breathe this dawn enchantress

Before she vanishes with the heat of the day;

Knowing not when she might return,

To slink across my lawn with dewy steps,

Lick my eaves,

And caress the naked branches

With a thousand gentle tears.

Tomorrow,

The rains will lavish

These whisper-soothed lands

Like an insistent groom

Pursuing his tulle cloaked bride.

She will succumb.

© Strauss

 

Bruised

Sunlight strains through a dust stained window,

Speckled in last spring’s dried raindrops.

Bruised shadows fan the entirety of a compromised chamber;

Not radiant, not luminous, not exactly dull, but – gentle and subdued.

They flicker as the sunlight plays with the stirring foliage outside

Like shadow puppets behind a calico screen.

I could cleanse the tainted glass;

Lift the burden from its smattered lens;

The light would then flood blindingly, naturally, dazzlingly,

But I have become accustomed to the bruised shadows,
And they trouble you not.

Those gentle bruised shadows, they dance for me.

© Strauss

2006

Image by David Evans

Jewelled Pebbles

Your eyes were sculpt

from polished white pebbles,

and adorned with a jewel

of opal and onyx.

Eons ago,

the jewel came to life,

and sparked with delight

and mischief.

Your eyes,

they've cried happy tears;

sad tears; they bore witness.

They've squinted in the sun;

Clamped tight in fear;

and swooned

in the presence of a lover.

In my despair,

I peer within,

hoping that you still remain.

But though I do search,

your last breath

long expelled,

all I behold

are jewelled pebbles.

Strauss

8th June 2011

The Long Shorts

‘Why do fellas these days, have to wear those bloody horrible long shorts?’ asks Dad glaring down the passage to Nigel, who was wandering in our direction.


‘I dunno Dad‘, I sigh. ‘It’s the fashion. They are all wearing them like that. Forget it….Did you have a read through those brochures?’

I attempt to bring Dad back to the matter at hand. I know he is struggling with the idea of his own mortality. It’s not my favourite subject, but it was his idea to get matters sorted. He said he didn’t want us to deal with it; not after what he went through when Mum died last winter. I said I’d help him, but I don’t think either of us is ready for this discussion.

‘Don’t they realise how bloody stupid they look?’ says Dad, completely ignoring my question, and sniggering as Nigel approaches.

‘What?’ asks Nigel, wondering what the joke is.

‘Nothing Love’, I say, waving him away.

‘It’s them shorts, Son’, Dad is laughing so hard he dissolves into a coughing fit.

‘What about ‘em? Don’t you like me shorts Grandpa?’ Nigel smirks and does a little jig.

‘They look shithouse!’

Nigel stands there for a moment looking at his Grandfather, who is now coughing and wheezing like a madman.

‘Settle down Dad. You’ll cough up a lung in a minute.’

‘Grandpa, me old mate’, says Nigel slapping his Grandfather on the back, ‘trouble with you is…. you’re old!’ Nigel scoffs in his Grandfather’s face before grabbing the keys to the Commodore, which lie on the kitchen bench. He laughs all the way to the front door, continuing his pants jig.

Dad stiffens, feigning offence, ‘Cheeky bastard!’

‘I’m off’, calls Nigel from the front porch.

‘Bye Love’. The front door swings shut and the V8 engine revs outside.

Dad leans in with gritted teeth and eyeballs me across the table. He’s not laughing anymore.

‘If he turns up to my funeral wearing those bloody pants, I’m gunna jump out of my fuckin’ box and kick his arse!’

I sit across from my father, holding his stare. Casually, I turn to the casket page in one of the funeral home brochures, ‘Pine, oak or mahogany?' I ask dryly.

Dad is silent for a moment, before a smile spreads across his face.

‘Mahogany, of course. I’m a classy bloke!’

Tanka - Nurture

I watch her skating

Solo for the first time

Tears of pride mix

With tears of vague regret

That well from a future place

© Strauss

15th May 2007

Flower Day

You arrived four weeks early; without fuss; without drama. This was your intention. You have always been very definite about your actions.

I knew you were a girl. I could not think of a boy’s name to save my life, and it worried me that I was unprepared, but we “spoke”, you and I, before you were born; soul to soul. You told me you were a girl and I needn’t bother with boy’s names. So I didn’t. I trusted our communication. I even dared buy a tiny pink cardigan, which I packed in my hospital bag for your first trip home. You were perfect in every way- my beautiful girl.

Chelsea loved hearing her birth story. She’d sit transfixed, astounded by details she’d partaken in, but had no memory of. This was my gift to her.

My own birth story begins on the day my sister chose me...... I was seven weeks old.


Sarah was insistent. She only wanted you. You were the prettiest baby in the hospital, Mum would recall proudly; my sister sitting beside her, blushing on cue as she’d squeeze us into her.


Dad always said Mum was naturally maternal, but after five miscarriages in four years she conceded, receiving a baby in the normal way was unlikely. Mum never made my sister nor I feel like conciliation prizes. Rather, she made adoption seem like a spiritual act of fate:


‘My angels simply took an unintended detour. I just had to find them and bring them home’, she’d say matter-of-factly. I secretly worried about the three unfound angels. I wondered if Mum did too.


In my family, it was easy not to dwell on adoption, though it was a fact I could not ignore; more so since becoming a mother myself. I thought carrying and birthing a baby would help me reconcile a missing piece of myself, but in the days after my daughter’s birth, the overwhelming bond I felt for my child only brought confusion and despondency, as I struggled to understand how my birth mother could have abandoned me.


My family celebrates birthdays with presents and cake in the usual way, but they also acknowledge our adoption anniversary. On this day, Mum and Dad would pick a posy of flowers from the garden and leave them in our room with a simple note of affection resting against the crystal vase. It read:


‘So glad you are mine’.


I looked forward to that ritual every single year. Even now, as adults and Mum passed, Dad still pops around with flowers from his garden to mark the day; ‘So glad you are mine’, he’ll whisper in my ear as we embrace. ‘Me too Dad’, I reply. ’Me too’.


One night, when Chelsea was five, she asked me about ‘the flower day’, and I told her about my adoption and our family tradition. Chelsea was quiet throughout my story, lying back on her pillow with her honey coloured curls spiralling outward like a fan. When I was done, she lay looking at me with concerned eyes. Then she sat up and hugged me, her thin arms draped around my neck.


‘I am glad you are mine too Mummy’, she spoke softly into my ear.


‘I am glad you are mine too Poppet’, I returned.


Chelsea is ten now, and they are discussing family at school. Grandparents on both mine and her father’s side have been fantastic in helping Chels pad out her research.


I am sitting at the kitchen table, only distantly interested in the Suduku puzzle from the newspaper, while Chelsea glues photos onto a family tree project.


‘Mum’, she asks. ‘Have you ever thought of finding your real parents?’


This is not a new question. I have been asked this many times over during the course of my life. I answer in the rehearsed way:


‘No Darl, it doesn’t interest me’, I lie.


‘But don’t you want to know why your real mum didn’t want you?’


Your real Mum didn’t want you. These are the words that resonate in me. They burn with the ruthless ferocity of a rampaging forest fire, but I steady myself and follow with my stock standard retort:


‘As far as I am concerned, my real Mum and Dad are Grandma and Poppy. They have loved and raised me my whole life. I know no other parents’. This response usually suffices to shame the enquirer, and draw the conversation to a swift close - but not today.


‘You could go on that show Find My Family’, she suggests helpfully.


‘If others want to go on that show then that is okay, but it is something I do not feel necessary to enter into’, I reply self-righteously .


‘Okay’, she mumbles shamefully.


‘Besides’, I add, ‘how would Poppy feel?’ I wait for a response. Chelsea shrugs with resigned, withered shoulders.


‘Well I think he’d feel very hurt”. Chelsea says nothing, but continues to look down at her project. Smiling couples gleam back at her; happy portraits of the generations before her, and a candid shot of my sister and I at the beach, with Mum holding her sun hat, preventing it from blowing away. She is laughing at the awkwardness of her pose, with two squirming girls on her lap. This was my real childhood; my only childhood. What ifs can never be, despite the unspoken yearning to know more, and the unrelenting desire for understanding, which lurks below the surface and never leaves, like a menacing crocodile with its beady eyes peering out from the water; disturbing the tranquillity of a superficial paradise. Who am I to throw rocks into the water to torment the crocs?


‘Mum’, Chelsea chimes in. ‘Don’t be mad, but…’, she hesitates, and my stomach turns over like pages from a book made of slate. ‘The other day, when I was talking to Poppy about his Mum and Dad, I asked him if he’d be sad if you tried to find your real parents.’


‘Chelsea! You didn’t’, I throw my pencil down in disgust, and glare at her with a mix of fear and intrigue.


‘It was only a question’ she insists, sounding irritated.


‘Well!’ I blurt ‘How did he react?’ Chelsea looks up from her project, uncertain about sharing her information.


‘Well….. he asked if you’d looked into it, but I said I didn’t think so.’


‘Of course I haven’t’, I interrupt.


‘He thought for a bit, and said he might be a little sad, but he could understand someone needing to know about their birth family. Then he said he was surprised you hadn’t looked into it already. He reckoned he would want to know.’


‘Really….?’ My voice trails off. I sit there considering the possibility. It was an unspoken agreement, between my sister and I, that we never discuss our birth families; it was a loyalty thing; a respect thing. We were already part of a family story, as Chelsea’s project clearly illustrated, but I could also feel my absence in my birth mother’s story; we were like magnets pulling together through a thick sheet of cardboard; an irresistible attraction that others can neither see, feel nor understand.

 Then there is the other draw; the need for understanding and rationalisation; traits that seem at odds with other family members. Such as my rotten temper, when all others are mellow. My honey coloured curls, which my daughter also inherited, but who gave them to me? And what about Dad’s diabetes, present on both sides of his family? What pathological traits have my genes set me up for?

Unrelenting questions swim around my mind like stray letters in a child’s alphabet soup. I could scoop them out and attempt to unite them in a long lost word or slurp them up as the inconsequential pieces of pasta they really are; something to chew on in an otherwise clear broth. I am leaning toward the latter, knowing there will always be something to justify my yearning, but at what cost? The umbrella that has protected me from all matter of stormy weather remains - my life is good. I am surrounded by a loving family; I have an abundance of happy memories that glitter through my life like the Milky Way on a clear night; Strong role models who have shown me what a family should be, enabling me to confidently parent my own child, with the support of a loving partner and sound advice of generations echoing through the one before me. I might have been given up at birth, something I find difficult to reconcile, but I am accepting, for I know from where I have come, spiritually not biologically, but still, in this I know I can never be alone, for I was not so much abandoned as received.

How does a rainbow feel?

After a tiresome afternoon cooped up indoors, Amy dashes outside to be the first to stomp in the puddles brimming in the backyard. While pulling on her pink rubber boots, she peers up into the clearing sky and spots the familiar arc of a rainbow. Captivated, she reaches out, wishing to take the rainbow in her tiny hand. She imagines it to feel light and fluffy like the coloured candy floss her Nan had bought her at the fair last spring, and she hopes it will dissolve into the same sticky sweet residue upon her touch, which she’d lick from her fingers with glee.....